Therefore an overseer must be... 12 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? — 1 Timothy 3:4-5

Oh boy, this is a long and tough qualification. But it’s a good one. Because if you cannot lead at home, you cannot lead anywhere. I think leadership is far more difficult here than anywhere else. This is because, at home, leaders let down their guard. And the people who live within the walls of their homes know them better than anyone else. Therefore our wives and children know how to test our boundaries and push our buttons better than anyone. And right inside my home, I have felt the most disqualified as a leader.

But great leaders work to understand and navigate this leadership challenge. They bear the weight of the role investing the needed time and energy to influence, persuade, mentor, and reconcile. They are not dictators or monarchs but spiritual leaders who serve like Jesus. They work to know and understand the people and personalities under their care. Being a husband and father is the most significant leadership challenge we will ever encounter, and it’s messy. Just as messy as leading the church. So as Paul says, if you cannot lead at home, how will you ever be able to lead the people of the church because there are way more people and personalities in the church?

So how’s your leadership at home? Is there something you need to address? Well, get after it and get qualified.

ASK THIS: Do you have something you need to address at home?

DO THIS: Get after and learn to lead.

PRAY THIS: God, give me the ability, strength, and courage to lead at home.

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