Commentary Critical and Explanatory on the Whole Bible - 1 Timothy 3:12
12. husbands of one wife—(See on 1 Timothy 3:2). ruling their children—There is no article in the Greek, "ruling children"; implying that he regarded the having children to rule as a qualification (1 Timothy 3:4; Titus 1:6). their own houses—as distinguished from "the Church of God" (see on Titus 1:6- :). In the case of the deacons, as in that of the bishops, he mentions the first condition of receiving office, rather than the special qualifications for its discharge. The practical side of... read more
Coffman Commentaries on the Bible - 1 Timothy 3:12
Let deacons be husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.Let deacons be husbands of one wife ... This disqualifies any woman from serving as an official deacon. The notion that Paul laid down hard and fast regulations regarding the marital status of both elders and (male) deacons, and he then authorized a whole new echelon of (female) deacons without specifying any marital qualifications whatever, is too unreasonable to believe. No! The people who are determined to... read more