Mark 7:20-23

“Date your wife. Take her out. Get her flowers. Maybe it will reignite something?” – Christian leader to faithful husband I find this advice obnoxious. Sadly, it seems ubiquitous in evangelical-land as a way to “affair proof” a marriage. Such is dangerous and delusional thinking. The state of the marriage relationship is not what causes adultery. … Continue reading ““Date Your Spouse” Advice”…

This morning I read the story in Mark 11 of Jesus cleansing the Temple. He was angry with those who were using worship at the Temple for their own gain. Since most of us haven’t been guilty of selling birds or running a currency exchange in the back of the church, we are afforded the opportunity to smugly look down on those rascals that Jesus tossed out.…

The time following infidelity is often very confusing to the sucker-punched faithful spouse. This website was launched as a resource and support for Christian faithful spouses trying to navigate such treacherous waters. It was also started to help pastors and Christian leaders who truly care about faithful spouses during such traumatic times. What I have … Continue reading “DM’s Three Main Messages”…

This past Thursday, October 8th, 2015, Michelle Duggar–of reality show “19 Kids and Counting” fame–responded to fan mail asking for advice. She was particularly tackling the fan question of advice for a newlywed wife, Jill. Here’s the post. Before I went through my divorce, I might have agreed with everything Michelle writes in this post, … Continue reading “Dangerous Duggar Marital Sex Advice”…

And he said, “That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.” – Mark 7:20-23, KJV, (emphasis mine) When … Continue reading “Goal: Personal growth or blame acceptance (by the faithful party)?”…

And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: All these evil things come from within, and defile the man. – Mark 7:20-23, KJV, (emphasis mine) … Continue reading “Personal Growth Versus Accepting Blame”…

And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: All these evil things come from within, and defile the man. – Mark 7:20-23, KJV, (emphasis mine) When … Continue reading “Personal Growth Or Just Blame Acceptance!”…

A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. -Ezekiel 36:26, KJV I can remember when we sat down to hash out THE LIST. This list … Continue reading “Rules Do Not Work”…

And the people of Berea were more open-minded than those in Thessalonica, and they listened eagerly to Paul’s message. They searched the Scriptures day after day to see if Paul and Silas were teaching the truth. -Acts 17:11, NLT Maybe you are like me and find it difficult to say no to an authority figure? … Continue reading “It is okay to “fire” your pastor.”…

“In those days there was no king in Israel. Everyone did what was right in his own eyes.” (Judges 21:25) A compass is a relat……